Nobody is Thinking About You. Don’t you think we are trying way too… | by Gurkirat Singh | Oct, 2022

Don’t you think we are trying way too hard to be perfect in the eyes of others? Aren’t we constantly maintaining different personalities for different people all at once just so that others don’t have any ill thoughts towards us?

It’s easy for us to worry about what others might think about us. You might also constantly think if other people are misjudging you or what opinions they hold of you. All these thoughts are overwhelming as they are uncontrollable and there is no damn conclusion after reflection on these thoughts. Most of the time you become insecure after having these thoughts and become way too conscious about what to speak or what to do. You then start to undermine your own personality and start to put some filters on your behaviour so that it looks pleasant and ideal to others.

Now, do you think that after doing all this stuff for the sake of others, you will be happy? Well, the answer is no because rather than making you happy it is going to put a lot of stress on you for trying to be someone that you are not. So what should we exactly do???

The best thing you can do is to keep this one simple thing in your mind, “Nobody is thinking about You”. “Woah, how is that supposed to solve my problem rather it seems to be putting more stress over my brain. Nobody is thinking about me?? Are all the efforts I am doing for nothing ?? Do people not care about me??”. I know that you might have these strong sceptical opinions regarding this statement like the ones listed above and I know that it seems a bit harsh when one gets to know that nobody is ever thinking about one but don’t you worry I will provide you with relief further in this blog.

So basically you now, know that Nobody is thinking about you. People are mostly just thinking about themselves. People don’t have time to worry about what you are doing, or how well you are doing it because they are all caught up in their own dramas. You may get attention for a moment from others but before you know it, it will automatically revert right back to where it’s always been, on themselves. While it may seem lonely and horrible at first to imagine that nobody is thinking about you but at the same time, there is also a great release from overwhelming responsibilities that we created on our own by overthinking.

You are free because everyone is too busy worrying over themselves to worry all that much about you. You don’t have to care about others’ judgements and neither you have to worry if they hold any bad opinions about you or not. Now, you can basically be whomever you want to be. You can do whatever you wish to do. Pursue whatever fascinates you. Last but not least, Create whatever you want to create and let it be stupendously imperfect because it’s more likely that nobody even Notice and it’s totally cool!!

NOTE: Some of you might develop this scornful feeling against other people for them to be only thinking about themselves but before you do that, don’t you think it’s totally legit for someone to think about themselves? The problem lies within you for expecting way too much from them. So instead of having this bad feeling just Chill!